aims to annihilate the idea that Black women have a physical and psychological strength that makes them superhumans. Essentially, she shared that we are people too.
My life has gotten better since I’ve allowed myself to be vulnerable, with the right individuals of course. My therapist is one of those people. She’s an older Black woman who is honest, but never cruel and she doesn’t force ideas on me.
She listens, even when I talk in circles or when I get choked up. I think I appreciate her so much because she’s a reflection of me. We’re both career-focused Black women who have a deep capacity for compassion. Plus, we keep in touch when I move, which is great because I wouldn’t know how to find anyone with a skill set anywhere near hers.
When I got pregnant late last year, my therapist was one of the first people I told. I knew that she wouldn’t come with dated judgments and that she would be there to walk me through my next steps. I had friends (whom I love), but the majority of them are my age. I couldn’t really look to them for advice for every angle of the ordeal. Having an older, Black, female therapist was just what I needed in that moment, and in the moments that followed.
I encourage all Black women to reach out for therapy, even if it’s only once. You’d be surprised what can be uncovered in a single hour. There are resources out there to help you get started with your search.
One of the ones that are getting attention right now is Therapy for Black Girls, a site that “list[s]…mental health professionals across the country who provide high quality, culturally competent services to Black women and girls.” This comprehensive listing breaks it down by state and its creator is genuinely in the mental welfare of Black women. I urge you to transcend your reservations so you can get the assistance you need.
Brooklyn White is a journalist with content featured on Teen Vogue, Rookie Mag, and Bitch Media.