expression. Getting a little Fifty Shades action going with your partner can be a lot of fun as long as it’s consensual. Yet you can even be dominating with your words and inside the mind. Yet that sometimes can lead to manipulation and abuse if you’re not careful.
2. Role-Playing: Dressing Up and Acting Out
Role-playing during sex can be extremely hot, fun and mind-blowing and is common among couples who want to push the envelop in the bedroom while living rather mundane lives outside the bedroom. It’s a way to build intimacy and trust with your partner, while also having incredible orgasms.
Sex expert and commentator Colleen Singer puts it like this: “Role-playing can take many forms, ranging from living out a secret fantasy, to more elaborate games with actual storylines and costumes. If you’ve been with the same person for a long time, sometimes you just need a little extra fire in the bedroom – and that is OK. One very effective way to do this is role-playing.”
Dr. Dawn Michael — a clinical sexologist, relationship expert and author — adds that in its most authentic form, role-playing is simply “taking on a character other than yourself and acting it out, playing a role.”
1. Submission: Being Tied Up, Teased, and Spanked
Many men enjoy sexual fantasies in which the man is more of a passive player. “A lot of men enjoy being submissive,” Kerner says. “It runs contrary to the way they experience their lives outside the bedroom. They enjoy being tied up, teased, tantalized, and spanked. It’s about feeling like you surrender control.”