realized that her silence was not helpful. In fact, it can be argued that it enabled him to continue to paint a false picture of what was being done. Your voice is powerful so if something brutal has happened to you, it is your right to talk about it. It just might empower someone else, too.
2. Kelis also advised women to get out of violent relationships as fast as they can. Although I
realize not everyone is able to just up and leave an abusive partner, you shouldn’t stay (if you’re capable of fleeing) for the sake of love. It won’t magically get better. You’re not responsible for healing your partner. All you can do is take care of yourself and your children (if you have any).
3. Lastly, I re-learned the importance of strides towards financial independence. Kelis shared that she was already a career woman when she met Nas, and I believe that enabled her to leave. I’m not saying that she didn’t have a difficult time financially after the split (because she wasn’t touring or releasing new material according to the interview), nor am I saying women have to be millionaires. It’s just that working your way towards your own hustle is super helpful when it comes to breaking things off and moving on with life.
Brooklyn White is a writer with work published on Saint Heron, Teen Vogue, Bitch Media, HYPEBAE, Milk Makeup, HelloGiggles, and Fashionista