orgasm. It can take much longer to achieve the arousal needed to orgasm, and often, orgasms become less intense,” says Dr. Heather England, Clinical Psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Life and Sex Coach.
“On top of that, physical changes due to reduced estrogen make the vaginal area drier, which can cause sex to be painful. Using lubrication helps, but sometimes, it’s insufficient to compensate for the lack of natural lubrication. I always suggest my clients tell their doctor if sex is painful because medications and hormone therapy can help dramatically. No one should assume painful sex is acceptable, regardless of your age.”
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What Can You Do?
If you are wondering how to increase your sex drive during menopause, know that various strategies and options are available. From simple self-care measures to medical interventions, finding what works best for you is vital.
The North American Menopause Society has some suggestions to enhance your sexual well-being and desire during menopause:
- Use lubricants and moisturizers—Products like water-based and vaginal moisturizers can help alleviate vaginal dryness and discomfort during intercourse. However, before using any new topical products, it’s essential to conduct a pretest in a “safe” area, such as behind the ear, to ensure they do not cause irritation. Testing a small skin patch before applying a product more broadly can help you determine if it is suitable for use without any adverse reactions.
- Explore hormone therapy—Hormone therapy, under the guidance of a healthcare professional, can help balance hormone levels and alleviate symptoms that affect your sex life.
- Communicate with your partner—According to an article by Harvard Health Publishing, communication with one’s partner is the foundation of a healthy sexual relationship. Open and honest communication about your needs, desires, and concerns can foster a deeper emotional connection and enhance intimacy.
- Try different positions and techniques—Experimenting with new positions or techniques that prioritize comfort and minimize discomfort can help you discover what works best for you.
- Engage in non-penetrative intimacy—Remember that sex encompasses many activities beyond intercourse. Explore non-penetrative forms of intimacy, such as sensual massages, oral stimulation, or mutual masturbation.
- Seek professional guidance—If you’re experiencing persistent difficulties, consider consulting a healthcare provider or a sex therapist specializing in menopause-related issues.
- Prioritize self-care—Taking care of your overall well-being, including physical exercise, stress reduction techniques, and adequate sleep, can positively impact your sexual health.
- Maintain a healthy lifestyle—A balanced diet, regular exercise, and avoiding smoking and excessive alcohol consumption can improve sexual function and overall well-being.
Everyone’s journey through menopause is unique, so don’t be afraid to explore different options and find what works best for you and your partner. Empower yourself with knowledge, seek support when needed, and prioritize your sexual well-being as essential to your overall health and happiness.
Embracing Sexual Well-being During Menopause
Navigating the impact of menopause on your sex life can be a transformative journey that requires open communication, self-discovery, and the courage to seek support. Remember that prioritizing your sexual well-being is about pleasure and nurturing your health and happiness.
By exploring strategies, from lubricants and hormone therapy to emotional intimacy and self-care, you can reclaim control over your sexual experiences and embark on a fulfilling and empowered path through menopause.