How To Introduce Your Partner To Your Family

    (BlackDoctor.org) — It’s the holiday season, and you’ve decided it’s time to finally introduce your new love to your family. For most people, this is an exciting, happy event to look forward to. For others…umm, not so much.

    Some people are blessed with warm and loving relatives; others cope with families that can seem a bit more unconventional — especially to an outsider. So what’s a person with family issues to do when it comes to introducing a new boyfriend or girlfriend, particularly around the holidays?

    Do you bring your sweetie home to meet your scrapping siblings or come up with a glib excuse to keep them away? Warn them about Uncle Toby’s issues ahead of time or cross your fingers and hope he doesn’t attack them under the mistletoe? In other words, what’s the best way to introduce your date into the dysfunctional family fold?

    1. Give Your Mate a “My Family 101” Course
    Prepping a new love interest for the family dynamics is key, says Tina B. Tessina, a psychotherapist in the Long Beach area and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. “You definitely need to prepare your date,” says Tessina. “Give that person a heads up to let him or her know what the problems are and if there are any real trigger issues to stay away from, like not talking religion with dad because he’s a devout minister. Explain how you relate to your parents — maybe you and your mom get along better if you don’t talk much — and clue your date in about family customs, like the type of humor your family uses.”

    2. Don’t Keep Family Problems A Secret
    Yes, some family issues can be difficult to explain. But Tessina says that even tough issues like mental illness need to be broached – unless the person is just a casual date. If you plan on keeping your date in your life of a while, then you need to divulge the facts.

    “Try to look at your family through a stranger’s eyes,” says Tessina. “What is this person going to see when coming through the door? What kind of behaviors are going to experienced?”

    “If you have a relative who occasionally acts strange, let your date know the specifics,” says Tessina. Explain that Uncle Aaron has Alzheimer’s and might ask your date five or six times if he or she has eaten yet, but that he doesn’t remember asking already, so just be pleasant about it.

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