The great day of cupid is upon us and as Hallmark would have it there will be a massive exchange of sweet treats, sentimental cards, fragrant flowers and sexy little nothings in the form of lingerie. While physical gifts are great gestures of love and adoration, there is one gift that should be at the top of everyone’s list of giving this Valentine’s Day: the gift of permission.
This may seem like an unconventional gift to give when so many are expecting tangible exchanges, but more often than not one person in a sexual equation is losing out on experiencing the pleasure he/she seeks. This is a common complaint I hear about among couples, but the gift of permission can bring forth positive changes.
Valentine’s Day is the one moment couples actually make a conscious effort to focus on enhancing the romantic aspect of the union, and this is the perfect time to put a new set of sexually empowering practices to work.
So what exactly is this “gift of permission” I speak of, and what exactly should permission be grated for?
An adherence to societal standards for sexuality and subconscious conditioning have trained individuals to believe sex is completely male driven and only to be enjoyed in “vanilla” (or traditional) ways, but granting yourself permission is all about giving yourself the ok to experience sexual energy the way YOU choose.
Granting yourself permission, whether male or female, is all about telling yourself it is okay to live out your sexual fantasies.
Too often people live with an imaginary enforcer who polices what goes down in the bedroom, but that enforcer is nothing more than fear perpetuated by the ego. It’s time to come out of your ego!
This Valentine’s Day, tell yourself its okay to bring new and exciting elements into the bedroom to spice things up.
Studies have shown that relationships established for two years or more begin to see a decline in sexual activity and interest, so switching things up proves to be healthy for the committed.
You must give yourself permission to experience sex in a different way. It is okay to bring toys into the bedroom, there is no shame in exploring your partner’s body in various ways and trying new sex positions is your prerogative.
When the lights go out and you’re alone with your partner, the only rules to follow are the ones you create together.
Great sex begins first in the mind and the body follows suit. Change the way you think about sex, give yourself permission to play and claim your birthright to have amazing sex.
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.
