Pregnancy can be a beautiful experience, but along with the food cravings and mood swings comes a sex drive that can go from 0 to 100 in a matter of weeks. As a new life develops and attraction between a couple grows stronger the desire to get it on more frequently can arise, but for many who have never experienced pregnancy sex there are some concerns that may deter a couple from entering into sexual activity.
Well I am here to tell you to relax! Pregnancy sex is safe for the woman who is experiencing a normal and healthy pregnancy, but there are a few things an expecting couple should keep in mind when engaging in erotic play. If you are an expecting couple or are planning to start a family soon, here are a few tips for how to have great sex while with child.
Hormones will be haywire
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With each trimester comes a new set of feelings and emotions brought on by hormones that are helping the baby grow. The first trimester is typically filled with morning sickness and nausea that can keep the idea of sex far from a woman’s mind, but the second trimester brings with it an increase of blood flow to the pelvis and an increase in hormones that can send a woman’s sex drive through the roof. Ladies, whatever your body is telling you feel free to follow suit. If you’re hot and bothered and in need of some sexual healing, then give your body what it desires. If you are less than enthused about sex or just don’t have the energy, then lay back and relax. You’re carrying a new life after all! Be patient with your hormones and encourage your eager lover to be patient along with you.
Body massage goes a long way
A woman’s body goes through an array of changes during pregnancy that place pressure and more water weight on the lower back, hands and feet. Relaxation can be just as orgasmic as intercourse during this time, so for the fella that is hot and ready to go, show her how much you adore her and place your desires aside and relax her body with an erotic massage. Ending off at her vulva using a vibrator, cunnilingus or a simple massage using your fingers is a great way to release endorphins and healthy chemicals for her and the baby. Don’t worry daddy to be, you will have your turn when she’s in the mood.
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Pillows are your friend
As the belly expands certain sex positions will become uncomfortable without a little support. Spooning, doggie style and cowgirl (woman on top) positions are recommended to use especially as the belly grows bigger. It’s all about ensuring her comfort while engaging in erotic play. Keep a few pillows close by to use as a cushioning pad during doggie style and spooning positions. Missionary should be avoided towards the third trimester or as the belly expands to avoid restricting the flow of blood to the baby. Placing a few pillows underneath the belly is a way to reduce baby weight while supporting the belly during activity. While she is on top, he can use the pillows underneath his head to give him a better view of his glowing partner during the best sex of his life.
Orgasms are healthy
It’s common to think that having an orgasm while pregnant is in some way harmful, but this is far from the truth. In fact, having orgasms during pregnancy has been proven to provide healthy benefits for baby and mom. Orgasms can cause light contractions (orgasms cause the muscles in the vagina and pelvis to contract and spasm), so if labor is induced or the contractions become severe it’s best to see a doctor immediately. Don’t be afraid to relax and let your stresses melt away in the height of an orgasm.
Remain in communication
During this time communication during sex is even more important than before. Sexual activity needs to be adjusted as the baby develops and as her hormones bring on new changes. The goal is to always play safe while having sex and to check in with each other to make sure comfort is held as the highest priority. Don’t ignore her when she moves her body away from you, and don’t be afraid to let him know that things are getting uncomfortable. If rough sex is your technique of preference then you will have to hold off on that type of play until the baby is born. Slow, gentle and intimate are the words that should be kept in mind when having pregnancy sex. It’s the most uninhibited sex both partners will experience so make sure to check in while engaged in activity.
If you have questions about pregnancy sex or any concerns always remember to consult your physician.
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi and the all-new “Glamazon Tyomi’s Sex Academy” radio show here.
