Tina Knowles-Lawson: “Fall In Love With Yourself Again”
We all know Tina Knowles-Lawson as the strong, black woman who gave birth to and raised two superstars Beyonce’ and Solange, but she’s so much more than that.
Born Célestine Ann Beyincé in Galveston, Texas, she left home at 19 and relocated to California to work as a makeup artist. However, she returned home when her parents fell ill. Knowles worked as a beautician until 1990 when she opened the salon Headliners, located in Houston. The salon went on to become one of the most famous hair businesses in Houston.
Then she gained even more fame as the designer for super group, Destiny’s Child, and the rest is history.
But recently, Tina sat down with T.D. Jakes to talk about life after divorce. The superstar mom, who many thought was always confident, shared that she had her struggle and how life was not easy after 33 years of marriage to Matthew Knowles.
In the video below, she explains that picking up the pieces after a divorce, even for a successful mom who was pushing her 60’s, was hard. She has some savvy advice for those who are going through a divorce or really any hardship in life where it feels like you lost apart of yourself:
“When you’re getting a divorce your self esteem gets so low,” confesses Tina. “You say ‘I’m not young anymore. I’m not cute.’ I even doubted my intelligence. So I had to get myself together, because Richard wouldn’t come into my life if I wasn’t ready.”
“I have always believed in life after divorce. But, there was a time where I had my doubts,” explains Tina. “I was 59 years old and I was working and doing all these things and I didn’t believe that I could meet someone. So I started off loving myself.”
From Tina’s words, we crafted the top three tips for those of you who are also thinking of moving on after your marriage ended.
1. Be Accountable.
No one likes admitting their faults, but in order to make your next relationship work, it’s important to reflect on why your marriage didn’t last. That means asking yourself the tough questions such as, “What role did I play in our divorce?” and “Is there anything more that I could’ve done?” It’s easy to blame your ex for everything that went wrong in the marriage, but being honest and owning up to your own mistakes shows maturity. Expect to shed a few tears during this one. Divorce is painful and it’s going to be an emotional roller coaster for the first few months, but over time, you can and will love again.