Infidelity. Cheating. Adultery. Stepping out. Having a side piece. Unfaithfulness. However you label it, going behind your partner’s back or outside of your relationship for sex is incredibly common in America, but in some areas, it’s even more common than ever.
If you’re unfamiliar, MyDatingAdviser.com is a “dating” website where experts offer advice on all things cheating. Thus, it’s appropriate that the service conducted a study on the phenomenon, analyzing the top U.S. cities for infidelity.
The website studied 200 major U.S. cities using data from the U.S. Census Bureau looking at marriage, divorce and separation rates to put together what it calls the Infidelity Index. As the data shows, cheating comes in many forms and may look different for one person than it would for another. “It can happen in marriages, emotionally, and just because of sudden circumstances…that have little to do with that person’s current relationship,” MyDatingAdviser.com notes.
The data also analyzed the population’s life satisfaction by evaluating emotional and physical well-being, work environment, and community.
The number of venues to meet for an affair, and the volume of searches on Google for affair hookup websites were also considered for the rankings.
“While most would assume that bigger cities probably produce more cheaters per capita, this data shows us what we were already aware of; cheaters are everywhere,” said Isabella Mise, Director of Communications for Ashley Madison.
While the data doesn’t show whether men or women are more prone to cheat, previous research has shown that women are actually more likely to cheat than their male counterparts. “Men have been traditionally portrayed as the ones capable of balancing both a spouse and a lover,” said Dr. Tammy Nelson, author of “When You’re the One Who Cheats,” per New York Post. “But the truth is, women are better at multitasking — and according to this study, they may be better at cheating.”
What’s more, women who cheat are less likely to feel bad about it. “More than half of the women I talked to said: ‘I’m in a sexless marriage or I’m not having orgasms, and that’s why I’m cheating,’ ” researcher Alicia Walker, author of “The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women’s Infidelity,”added.
According to researchers, these reported dry spells were directly correlated with lower levels of attraction to one another. That said, 65% of women admitted they were no longer physically attracted to their partners, yet 74% asserted they did indeed love them.
So now that you know who’s cheating, here’s the list of where they are cheating: