the means (support system) to provide for the child. In the event the other party falls short of their obligations, you can rest assured your child will never go without.
Establish fair boundaries
It’s important to hammer out a fair and, if possible, liberal visitation schedule so that the child can form a meaningful relationship with both parents.
While co-parenting becomes more difficult for parents residing in different states — should a parent express a desire to come visit the child, they should not be denied that right, unless a court has ordered otherwise.
Keep in mind that you are not required to ignore the boundaries you have set in place – including where the other parent will stay during visitation. If you and the child’s parent aren’t “together,” that message should be clearly communicated; as it sends mixed messages to the child/ren.
At the end of the day, if a parent truly wants to see their child, they will plan accordingly. Nothing, not even state lines, will keep them from continuing a relationship.
Never speak ill of the other parent
I cannot stress this enough. Young children are like sponges. They soak up whatever you dish out. Imagine how they’d feel if those they love most are criticizing each other. They are neither capable of understanding nor responding to such behavior.
In conclusion, if there is a history of domestic violence, substance abuse, threats or malicious claims made against you or the child, I encourage you to go through the court system sooner than later, to establish said boundaries and ensure a safe transition for everyone.