Omari Hardwick & Lance Gross Talk The Pain Of Losing A Child
Sadly, there are times when families experience devastating losses. An expectant mother may lose her baby during the pregnancy or, more rarely, the baby may die during childbirth or soon after birth. During this time, each family (and each member of the family) may experience the loss and express grief differently, including the dad.
So much focus is placed on the mother–and rightly so–since she is responsible for carrying the child and has that intimate connection, but the father, who has gone along with the process, also feels it deeply
Both now proud fathers, the two begin the conversation by discussing Omari’s daily routines and rituals for keeping his mind, body and spirit in good shape. The Power star emphasizes that a healthy mindset is just important as a healthy physique.
“It makes no sense for your exterior to be on point if your insides are all contaminated,” he says.
As Lance shifts the discussion, he asks Omari to speak on a time when he felt he had to choose between his career and his own well-being. That’s when the two find out that both have experienced the pain of losing a child during pregnancy.
“The sixth year of my working career as an actor, we were pregnant with my first child,” Hardwick says. “Filming [the movie] Dark Blue, lying to the movie Kick Ass so that I could do both — and dealing with the baby sliding and not doing well. The doctors let us know, you know, that if it were them, they would have aborted and we chose not to. So, just riding that out for months in terms of like, not wanting to go to work and even having somebody secure enough and strong enough at home to say, “No, you have to go to work.” And then it came to a place where we lost the baby. Ironically, the day that we delivered the baby, I was forced to work.”
After that confession, Lance opens up about the love for his daughter and how she came after him and his wife lost their first child.
“Man, I don’t know about you, but when I come home from a long days work, seeing my daughter, man. It’s like I don’t care how long or how challenging my day has been, seeing my little girl puts me in the best place I can be.”
“I relate to you so much,” confessed Gross to Hardwick. “You don’t know, but we lost a child. I remember getting the call from my wife–I was in the middle of a scene. And I got a call from her and it did something to me– know what I mean? I felt like I should’ve been there.”
“You learn so many of those stories, but nobody talks about it,” says Hardwick.
And he’s right. When a person experiences loss during pregnancy, it’s normal to feel shock, grief, depression, guilt, anger, and a sense of failure and vulnerability.
The days, weeks, and even months following a loss can be incredibly difficult and painful – even more so if…