avoid talking about their loved one who passed away to not conjure sad feelings associated with the loss.
It can be very healing to hear other people tell stories or share funny memories about the departed and for the grieving to be able to do the same. Just make sure that you asses their mood first and make sure that the timing is right.
Additionally, it might even be helpful to practice your story before being in the grieving person’s presence, so you don’t say anything that may be insensitive.
5. Create Your Own Traditions
The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who are grieving because of previously established traditions that may now be too painful to continue. If they have the energy, try doing something new moving forward.
Work with them to curate new memories and create a different tradition or practice that serves as a holding place for their grief, as well as helps them honor the life of their lost loved one.
Perhaps volunteering at a local food pantry or starting a food or toy drive for families in need can be a great tribute and means of paying it forward during a difficult time of year. This activity of extending care and concern to others is a positive means to manage grief and sadness as you transfer your energy to someone else’s well-being versus your own feelings.
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6. Stay Consistent
It’s easy to show up once or twice immediately after the loved one’s passing, but consistency is key when supporting someone who is grieving.
Checking in periodically without smothering the grieving person is a supportive way to let them know that you are there and that you care. Your consistency is the difference between feeling sorry for them and showing you care about them as a person. And it also shows them that you understand grief is a life-long process, not a phase that just stops over time.
We hope these tips help your friend or family member with their grief this season. Happy holidays!
Jasmine Browley holds an MA in journalism from Columbia College Chicago, and has contributed to Ebony, Jet and MADE Magazine among others. So, clearly, she knows some stuff. Follow her digital journey @JasmineBrowley.