she just might not be physically attracted to you, you say she doesn’t want a “good guy.” You never consider that you have a habit of pursuing women who are not attracted to you for whatever reason. You try to make yourself feel better by assuming there MUST be something wrong with other people. As if, you are so amazing it is impossible for a sane person to not be attracted to you.
5. You change yourself. This is the person who would rather be with a specific person than be with someone they’re actually compatible with. The guy you want is spiritual and not religious so you stop going to church and start meditating. He thinks marriage is just a piece of paper.
Although you’ve been planning your wedding since you were a kid, all of a sudden marriage is not important to you. You will do whatever it takes to avoid rejection from the one guy you must be with. You make yourself feel better by assuming if you just change this one thing the person you desire will want you back.
6. You generalize an entire group of people. This is the man who says “Black women only like men who are thugs” or the woman who says “Black men are intimidated by successful women.”
When in reality, you were turned down a couple of times and would rather assume all black men or black women aren’t interested in you. So, you take