6 Things To Know About Infidelity

African American man and woman arguingI was invited to speak on the radio recently in Philadelphia about infidelity and how couples can restore intimacy in their relationships. As you can imagine, there were a number of callers who offered sentiments about relationship survival, severance or trauma endured. Given the candidness of the discussion, I thought it would be helpful to write about this sensitive issue that affects many relationships and families.

1. What is infidelity?

Infidelity happens when two parties have made an explicit (e.g., “We are going to be emotionally and sexually monogamous,” or “We are together,”) or implicit (e.g., We kissed, had sex, shared secrets, spent time with each other’s family, etc. but the relationship status was not discussed) agreement to not engage in the same behavior or emotional interaction with another person. When the agreement is severed by one or both parties, any transaction with another person is expected to be disclosed or maintained a secret (contingent upon one’s value system regarding truth, honesty, disclosure, etc.).