at least 1 of 5 ways.
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
I suggest learning your partner’s love language while sharing yours at the beginning of a relationship. When you want to show your partner how valuable they are, you communicate using their love language.
On the other hand, if you ignore their love language, they might start to believe you don’t value them. Don’t guess. Don’t assume. Learn their love language and use the information to show them how important they are to you.
Seeking to teach instead of learn
When your partner disappoints you, you might find yourself trying to teach them to do better. However, you have to remember you’re dealing with another adult that you do not have ownership of. Seek to learn why your partner makes the decisions he or she makes.
The goal is not to change someone to fit your ideal relationship. The goal is to have a healthy relationship where you and your partner feel free to be your true self.
Bringing up the past
Accept it. Everyone will disappoint you at some point in life. Healthy relationships are not composed of perfect people but are composed of imperfect people who accept each other’s imperfections. Imagine having a job with a manager that continually brings up the one time you were late 3 years ago.
You’d likely be less productive and happy with the job. When you move on from challenges in your relationship, actually move on. Make your partner feel like you believe in their ability to get it right this time.
Did you see yourself in any of the above? The good news is, it’s never too late to learn more productive ways to communicate with your partner. Just make sure you invest real time and effort to work on your skills.