sex and in the beginning stages of dating, this should be no different.
Don’t let the opinions of others deter you. Especially not someone you’re dating because of self-interest.
Actions speak louder than words. I’ve encountered people who thought they’d be able to change my mind.
It was up to me to show them that my word is bond. Stay out of situations that could lead to temptation (house dates, cuddle sessions, booty, and back rubs) and until you are ready, no need to say yes or to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
With any relationship, communication is key. Let your partner know that you’re abstaining from sex and how long you plan on waiting. This doesn’t have to be on the first couple of dates, but being honest with the person you’re dating is best.
This transparency helps both parties (they get to decide for themselves if they can handle the wait and you get to immediately weed out the ones who aren’t willing to wait).
Warning: it can sometimes feel like a rejection when someone would rather walk away from the situation, but that’s the wrong way to look at it. After all, you did nothing wrong.
You’re only guilty of putting yourself and your principles first and anyone who can’t support that shouldn’t be in your life anyway.
Jasmine Danielle is the Associate Editor of BlackDoctor.org. She received her BFA in Dance Education & Performance from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and has since done work as a certified fitness & wellness educator, blogger, dancer, and designer.