you’ve been with your partner for years.
When you’re with your partner, communication is key. Focus on what makes each other feel good, even if that means spending more time than you like on a certain area of the body. Take time to explore each other’s bodies. Tell your mate what you want more of (and less of) to keep the momentum going before and after the first orgasm. Most importantly, keep things fresh.
If you’re masturbating, slowly explore your body. Pleasure is all about touch, so work through your body (arms, legs, even hands) before you get to the erogenous zones. Get to know your body. Explore using all of your senses. Work it up and get yourself excited for the next thing.
IV. Edging
Edging is a technique in which you purposefully delay your orgasm, which can make your sensations more intense when you finally do finish. You can do this by:
- Stopping or decreasing stimulation right when you reach the “edge” of your orgasm.
- Waiting until the feeling of wanting to orgasm subsides.
- Then starting to increase stimulation again.
When you orgasm after edging, this may be a good time to try stacking orgasms, a technique in which you keep the stimulation going without stopping. You know how you may orgasm and say “Stop” because the sensation is too much? In this scenario, you or your partner keep going to take you over the edge into “multiple orgasm zone.” This may result in a continuous string of orgasms, or one prolonged orgasm.
V. Stimulate different areas each time
“There are several different ways women can orgasm,” Berry says, and each one involves stimulating a different part of the vulva, vagina, or anus. Types of orgasms include:
Clitoral: This is the most common type of orgasm for vulva-owning people, Berry says, and usually involves directly or indirectly stimulating the clitoris with a finger, tongue, sex toy, or from positional friction during sex.
G-spot: Your G-spot exists about an inch into your vagina, against the wall closest to your belly button. Because the G-spot is not very deep in your vagina, it may work better to push on this spot with a finger or toy rather than a penis to trigger an orgasm.
C-spot: The C-spot is located on your cervix, the small opening that leads from your vagina, into your uterus. Most of the time, your cervix exists a few inches into the vagina, but in the days before and during your period, it moves closer to your vaginal opening, which may make it easier to reach with a penis or sex toy. During sex, the uterus and cervix move further into the body, needing deeper stimulation. To have a C-spot orgasm, it may also help to have sex in positions that involve deeper penetration.
Anal: Orgasms from anal stimulation are more common in folks with penises because of their sensitive prostate. However, those with vulvas can also orgasm from either deep anal penetration (A-spot) or even from touching the outside of the anus. This is likely because the pudendal nerve in your anus is connected to the sensations in your clitoris. Anal sex can also stimulate the P-Spot.
P-spot: The prostate is sometimes referred to as the P-spot. The prostate is a small gland about the size of a walnut, located just below the bladder, and can be accessed a couple of inches inside the rectum. The prostate is extremely sensitive and can lead to intense orgasms when stimulated.