become abstinent while dating you. “My sex drive is pretty high,” admits my friend Dave. “If I’m dating a woman who puts me through a long waiting period, she is forcing me to lie about my needs and who I am.” A guy may like you enough not to press you about it for a couple of months (and that’s stretching it), but he definitely has some women on speed dial who don’t mind hooking up.
Bottom line: If a number of things about a guy bother you in the beginning, don’t waste time remodeling a distressed home. Keep checking out the real estate section.
Mistake #3: Giving too much too soon
In a Facebook post, relationship coach Tony Gaskins spoke about the most common mistake women make when dating: praising a boyfriend. What he meant by praise is the extra effort and support women give to the men they are simply courting that haven’t yet promised her a lifetime of commitment.
She cooks, cleans and has sex with him on command, remains faithful and loyal and even moves in with him.
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Gaskins made it a point to encourage women to stop praising boyfriends and to refrain from giving everything before a lifelong commitment has been promised.
“Why would a man work to have a woman if she is giving everything willingly with little effort being given to earn her?”, Tony rhetorically asks to get the attention of his woman audience.
His advice to women who give too much too soon in a relationship is to “close your legs and open your mind to get to know a man before giving everything.”
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This is a solid piece of advice for any woman looking for long term/lifetime commitment from a man.
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It is natural for a woman to be giving and nurturing, but giving in abundance before a man has said the words “I choose you for life” only places a woman in a position to be taken advantage of.
There needs to be a cap put on the amount a woman gives to a man before securing a future with him. After all, if one gives it all away in the beginning, there is nothing to look forward to.
It’s ok to be caring and nurturing to a boyfriend, however, it takes some reservation in order to turn the relationship from courtship to marriage.
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Time should be taken to sincerely get to know a person mentally and spiritually.
When a man has to work to earn the affection of a woman, it is much more appreciated than when it is simply given out of the feeling of having to keep a man satisfied.
For the single and still searching women out there, try Tony’s advice and see how it works for you. Don’t give up too much too soon.
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Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.
