Many black boys suffer in silence, act out, avoid, self-medicate, or exert their power in validating albeit destructive ways such as criminal behaviors. Many black boys suffer in isolation feeding their shame and may exert their power in the most permanent fashion, by taking their own life. The act of suicide in the Black male population may also mimic homicidal intent (e.g. the vow to take everybody out) or volatile outbursts that lead to such situations as “death by cop.” These behaviors are a demonstration of both pain and rage.
Generally, suicidal ideation or suicidal thoughts are a manifestation of persistent and pervasive distress met with hopelessness and desperation (unless paired with impulsive behavior, comorbid diagnosis, or substance use). The Suicide Prevention and Resource Center asserts that in 2011 of the Black male high school students that completed their survey, 9% had serious thoughts of suicide, while 7.7% made an attempt. We know that the rate of black male suicides are increasing steadily almost as a collective and communal plea to be noticed.
We must unequivocally express care for the countless brothers that continue to occupy space in our lives that are surviving and thriving. Simply put, I’d like to pay respect to all of you. I’d like to publically express my love for you. The prolific and wise philosopher, Dr. Cornel West quotes in his literary work, Hope on a TightRope – “If you come from a people who have been so hated, love can become subversive and transformative”.
- We can love our black boys enough to refrain from pathologizing an understandable although restricted range of human emotion and teach them that:
Black boys/men have a right to feel upset when harmed.
Black boys/men have a right to feel pain when wounded.
Black boys/men have right to feel fear when embarking on unchartered territory or entrenched in deplorable conditions.
Black boys/men have a right to be…human!
- We can love our black boys enough to expect that they have the capacity to develop and express a full diaspora of emotion in a mature and honorable fashion.
- We can love our black boys enough to require that they treat other black men and black women with the respect that was awarded to the kings and queens of our heritage prior to the transatlantic slave trade and the discrimination abound in our present day existence.
- We can love our black boys enough to encourage that they proactively invest in their well-being physically, mentally, socially, and spiritually.
- We can love our black boys enough to endorse seeking counseling and therapy when needed and to utilize such assistance because they are strong enough to handle it and worthy enough to grow and develop in all realms of their life.
- We can love our black boys enough to create boundaries that honor the above five expressions of love and to demonstrate the same love for ourselves.
Collectively we can transform our community, honor our resilience, and stand in a new strength that will ultimately inform generations to come.
Dr. Brandi Pritchett-Johnson is a Licensed Psychologist and Clinical Assistant Professor at The University of Florida. She is also the CEO/President of the 501c3 nonprofit Future 4 Teens.