- Remember that a piece of your natural anatomy has been removed, so your sexual experience will be different than before. Embrace this and become excited about discovering new ways to experience sexual pleasure.
- RELAX. Sometimes holding anticipation and expectation for your body to respond a certain way can cause your orgasm to drift further away from coming to its peak. Leave your expectations behind and go into the sexual experience with a relaxed mind and body. Enjoy the sensations you’re feeling and let your body react how it desires. Flow with the moment.
- As far as your anal sensitivity is concerned, it’s normal. The anus and vagina are parallel in position and are separated by a thin but strong wall. Sometimes during vaginal penetration your anus can also be stimulated simultaneously. With your uterus being removed your awareness of anal stimulation may have been heightened. Don’t be alarmed. This is normal and could prove to be a new area of exploration for you.
- Your ability to have the strong vaginal orgasms that you experienced before the procedure has definitely been affected by the hysterectomy. Yes, you still have the ability to orgasm but it is going to be your mission to find other ways to experience orgasm. There are several types of orgasms beyond vaginal and clitoral orgasms that can be as satisfying. There is a book I recommend you read and add to your collection. It’s called “The Multiorgasmic Woman” and you can buy it here.
- Practicing regular kegels may help with bringing you more sensation to your vagina during sex, so contract and release your vaginal muscles often.
- Belly fat is one of the most difficult areas to target as far as weight loss is concerned, but the most important lifestyle change that aids in shaping this area is DIET. Fatty foods, excess sugars, lack of water and excessive carbs can add negatively to this area. Also, stress increases cortisol which makes it difficult for fat to be removed even with diet changes and exercise. Do the best you can at remaining stress free to avoid stubborn fat cells from growing and setting up camp around your abdomen. My best advice to you is to make sure that you are engaging in at least 30 minutes of high intensity cardio activity, whether it’s riding a bike, jumping rope, running, Zumba or dancing, and to make some changes to your current diet. As far as ab work is concerned, here is a slideshow of 24 amazing workouts you can use to build up your core and reduce belly fat.
- My last piece of advice is to embrace your body where you are. Sometimes we seek change so much that we forget to be appreciative of where we are in the moment. Love your belly as it is. Imagine the stomach you want and believe that it can reach that standard you set through diet adjustments and daily workouts.
Experiment with various sex toys, breathing techniques and foreplay techniques to bring about different sexual sensations, and use different sex positions to switch things up. There are no limits to what you can do with your sex life other than the ones you set.
Again, I advise you to speak with your gynecologist about other ways you can increase your sex life especially in the case of having the cervix or upper part of the vagina removed during the hysterectomy. If your ovaries were also removed during the procedure, this could cause a drop in testosterone and estrogen which are important sex hormones. Estrogen contributes to maintaining the thickness, moisture and flexibility of vaginal tissue so tearing and painful sex may occur in the absence of ovaries. I hope the information I’ve provided here helps in some way.
All the best beautiful,
Tyomi
If you have any questions about your sex life or just need a listening ear email me at [email protected].
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi and the all-new “Glamazon Tyomi’s Sex Academy” radio show here.