In The Meantime: 5 Ways To Become Sexually Healthy Between Relationships

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Being a woman or a man in waiting for that special someone to share your sex life with can be a challenging yet fulfilling process, but rarely does one think about how the time in wait can be spent in developing sexually and maintaining sexual health.  According to the World Health Organization, sexual health is defined as “a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity” (WHO, 2006).  If you’re waiting for your Mrs. Right or Mr. Right, here are five healthy practices you can put into use while waiting to open up sexually with your desired mate.

1. Define your views about sexuality.

Our opinions in life are heavily shaped by outside influences whether by media, teachings from respected leaders, personal experiences or living vicariously through the stories of others. We take on so many different opinions about sexuality based on what we see, hear and experience, but rarely do we take the time to determine what truly registers as authentic to our sexual desires.

While you are in wait for that special someone, take the time to go within yourself to find out what truly attracts you sexually. It’s okay to do so. If you never take the time to determine what turns you on and gets you hot, then the path to enjoyable sex can become frustrating.

Spend time with yourself in making lists about what gets you to a point of sexual interest. I suggest that you begin a journal to put all of these thoughts in. Recent studies published by Psychology Today suggest that writing out your feelings is a healthy way to deal with stress and pent up frustration. If you see something in passing or hear something in conversation that makes you feel hot, write it down.

Also, determine how you feel about viewing yourself sexually and how you view certain sexual acts.  Is group sex appealing to you? Do you have a kinky side? What does being sexual mean to you? Whatever you discover, don’t feel ashamed to write down the complete truth in your journal; because if you can’t be honest with yourself about your views on sexuality, then you won’t be able to be honest and truly intimate with your future partner.