Why do so many marriages fail?
Current statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.
Here are five reasons that marriages fail in year 5
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1. Money & Household balance.
The growing independence between genders is thought to be one of the reasons for the significant increase in the incidence of divorce. Women have become more financially independent and men have become increasingly more domestically independent. As these gender roles break down, each gender becomes more self-sufficient in both arenas. When one person is financially irresponsible the whole pie is askew. If your partner continues to squander, than your future is built on quicksand and the safety and security for a strong bond is frayed and will break. When one person in the house continuously does more than the other the bond will so strain as well.
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If children are involved they will feel that they are the reason for the stress and strain on mom and dad. Two working parents in a household can work, but both must agree to equally push forward to balance everything. Cleaning cooking and domestic activities must be clearly and routinely divided. Schedules must be implemented Routines set in place that are unbreakable.
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2. Rushing into marriage.
The euphoria of being in love pushes many people to say I do. What they don’t realize is that saying that “I do” does not mean that person “does”. You will often hear couple who lived together and dated for years, get the “It’s about time to marry and rush into the actual marriage phase. Five years later, once the “honeymoon” phase is over you wake up next to a total stranger and realize that you have made a huge error in judgment. The moral of this is that true love can wait and if your relationship is meant to be, putting off the wedding won’t hurt it.
3. Infidelity.
Cheating is another cause of marriage failure and there are many reasons why a spouse cheats. The number one reason why is because they are looking for something outside of the marriage that they do not have in the marriage. A lack of communication is often why a spouse strays. Although some spouses...
... can forgive infidelity and move on, many marriages end in divorce. The other side is that emotional and sexually they are no longer thrilled by the newness.
4. Sex.
Let’s face facts… when the children come the libido changes. It is what it is. Many couple change in what they desire of someone and figure they just will get the same meal and or fix the same meal up all the time. Sex is meant to be the sharing of the two becoming one, not the chore for the other! It’s not just a youth issue. If we could more openly discuss the times where our sex drives lull we could survive more valleys.
5. Growing apart & Excluding Your Support System
Marriage is a partnership and sometimes a cause of marriage failure is simply that a couple grows apart. Often this happens when one spouse matures and decides that he/she no longer shares the same visions for a future. Marriage takes a lot of hard work, sacrifice and compromise. It also takes the support of the village. If you are marrying someone who does not come from the same background socially or economically that you do you are yoking yourself unfairly. Neither one of you will be able to grow to your full potential. If you believe that it is just you and your partner against the world you are deluded, Time and time again marriage fail when spouse are not allowed to reform interests, friendships and social ties that they had before you. Be wary of anyone who has no friends. Be leery of someone who wants to dress you all the time. The more similar people are in their values, backgrounds and life goals, the more likely they are to have a successful marriage. Opposites may attract but they may not live together harmoniously as married couples
