• Skip to main content
  • Skip to secondary menu
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer
BlackDoctor.org
Where Wellness & Culture Connect

Where Wellness & Culture Connect

  • Conditions
  • Wellness
  • Lifestyle
  • Longevity
  • Clinical Trials
  • Resources
    • Generational Health
    • Top Blacks in Healthcare 2025
    • Hall Of Fame
    • Clinical Trials Resource Center
    • Obesity Resource Center
    • Cancer Resource Center
    • Wellness on the Yard
    • Immunocompromised Care
    • BDO Resource Library
  • Find A Doctor
  • BDO TV
Home / Lifestyle / Relationships / 3 Steps To A Giving A Great Sensual Massage

3 Steps To A Giving A Great Sensual Massage

Sensual MassageSensual massage (also known as erotic massage) is a great way for couples to relax before getting into the main event and is an awesome form of foreplay to usher intimacy into the room. The body can become tense throughout the day from movement, stress and bad posture, so releasing those built up toxins and getting the body prepared for an amazing sexual experience is worth the time. If you are new to the techniques of sensual massage, don’t worry! You can become a massaging pro in no time by following these few simple tips.

Set The Scene

Transform the bedroom from a place of slumber into a romantic oasis of tranquil energy! Play some soothing music. Light a few scented candles to create mood lighting. Spark up a few incense to open up the olfactory senses. Make sure the temperature of the room is warm and comfortable.  Place your massage oils near the bed and place a towel on top of the bed sheets. You can even dress the bed with a new pair of sheets in a color that you both favor. Once the atmosphere has been set, it’s time to focus on the technique.

1. Use a Combination of Hand Techniques

Use the hands, fingers, knuckles and forearms to massage the different parts of the body. Long soft strokes, short and more firm strokes, kneading, twisting, and even scratching the skin are all ways to massage and caress the skin. Switch up the techniques every 15-30 seconds to send the body into a sensory frenzy. Here are three golden rules for hand techniques:

You May Also Like
Psoriatic Arthritis Can Feel Beyond Your Control. Consider a Different Direction. Learn More Here. Psoriatic Arthritis Can Feel Beyond Your Control. Consider a Different Direction. Learn More Here.

A. Don't Push So Hard
Depending on your goal, there are times when you need a tiny bit of pain for gain (like when you're putting pressure on a knot). But in general you want to give firm enough pressure that you can feel the muscle move underneath the skin without making your partner grimace or squirm.

B. Work Slowly
Rubbing hard and fast will just irritate your partner's muscles. Instead, use slow, even strokes with the palms of your hands, thumbs, or finger pads (the fleshy part of your fingertips).

C. Talk With Your Hands
When I am giving a massage, I imagine as if my fingers were talking and how they would yearn to give please to the skin they are touching. So slow, methodical, intense strokes with the palm of your hand and knuckles up and down the pack should be coupled with light, feathery strokes before moving to another part of the body. Just remember thumbs, palms and fingers for the majority of the massage. Knuckles, not so much.

You May Also Like
Get GLP-1s Delivered to You As Low As $99/Month! Get GLP-1s Delivered to You As Low As $99/Month!

READ: Top 7 Men's Sexual Fantasies Revealed

2. Pay Attention to Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are areas of the body known to strike up sexual arousal. Pay special attention to the...

... neck, chest area, the backs and insides of the thighs, the mouth and the pelvis. Caressing and massaging these areas will release tension all while taking you and your partner's arousal to higher levels.

READ: How To Create Intimacy During Sex

3. Use Your Breath to Caress the Skin

The breath is very gentle but can be used to bring goose bumps to the skin, creating a sensation that can move sexual energy throughout the body. Using the breath on your partner’s skin can create a sense of being desired and adored. Experiment with different spurts of breaths and directions of breath to stimulate the senses.

Visit the BlackDoctor.org Relationships center for more helpful articles and tips.

For more intimacy tips, click here.

By Derrick Lane | Published April 2, 2017

The Latest In Relationships

domestic violence

5 Silent Signs of Domestic Violence to Look Out For

Domestic violence is an issue that can have profound effects on individuals and families alike. Whether it’s clear and in plain sight, or hidden and kept silent, domestic violence does not discriminate. It affects people of all colors, creeds, and read more about 5 Silent Signs of Domestic Violence to Look Out For
simone smith

LL Cool J & Wife, Simone Smith, Celebrate 30 Years Married, Being Cancer-Free, And More!

James Todd "LL Cool J" Smith has been in the entertainment music business since 1984 with a string of hits, awards, movies, TV shows, and more under his belt. The rapper-turned-actor has stood the test of time and still looks read more about LL Cool J & Wife, Simone Smith, Celebrate 30 Years Married, Being Cancer-Free, And More!
love after divorce

Love After Divorce: Have You Given Up?

Statistics are pretty grim when it comes to American divorce rates. According to the American Psychological Association, between 40 to 50 percent of American marriages end in divorce. The data is even more interesting when we look at Black American read more about Love After Divorce: Have You Given Up?
love language test

Love Language Test: What’s Your (Or Your Partner’s) Love Language?

We all have different ways of communicating what we want to express to others, however, connecting with your partner was made easier 30 years ago when author Gary Chapman created the concept of "love languages" and the love language test. read more about Love Language Test: What’s Your (Or Your Partner’s) Love Language?

10 Cities with the Most Cheating Spouses

Infidelity. Cheating. Adultery. Stepping out. Having a side piece. Unfaithfulness. However you label it, going behind your partner’s back for outside of your relationship sex is incredibly common in America, but in some areas, it's even more common than ever. read more about 10 Cities with the Most Cheating Spouses
the perfect mate

7 Places You Haven’t Looked To Find Your Soulmate

We’ve all heard people say go to where you like to be to find your mate but does that really work? In some cases, yes, but if it's not working for you here are a few more options for finding read more about 7 Places You Haven’t Looked To Find Your Soulmate

Primary Sidebar

Subscribe to our newsletter

Icon

Caring for You, Too - Caregiver Workbook

1 file(s) 297 KB
Download

Trending Articles

10 Foods Your Liver Wishes You Would Would Stop Eating

healthy liver

10 Foods That Naturally Lower Cholesterol

foods that lower cholesterol

9 Black Women Who Prove ’50+ Is The New 30′

50 year old black woman

Secrets For A Non-Damaging Silk Press

silk press

The 5 Levels Of Caregiving

caregiving
Find a Culturally Sensitive Doctor

Footer

Where Wellness & Culture Connect

BDO is the world’s largest and most comprehensive online health resource specifically targeted to African Americans. BDO understands that the uniqueness of Black culture - our heritage and our traditions - plays a role in our health. BDO gives you access to innovative new approaches to the health information you need in everyday language so you can break through the disparities, gain control and live your life to its fullest.

Connect With Us

Resource Centers

  • Top Blacks in Healthcare
  • Clinical Trials
  • Wellness on the Yard
  • Cancer
  • Immunocompromised Care
  • About Us
  • Privacy Policy
  • Cookie Policy
  • Terms of Service
  • Careers
  • Advertise With Us
  • Advertising & Sponsorship Policy
  • Daily Vitamina
  • TBH

Copyright © 2025, Black Doctor, Inc. All rights reserved.