A woman calls her 88-year-old aunt every week. She is a sweet white-haired lady, a retired nurse and a former member of the usher board at church. The first sign something was off was when the aunt dropped an f-bomb in the middle of a phone call. It was so unexpected that the niece burst out laughing. What she didn’t know is that foul language can be a sign of dementia.
Uncharacteristic use of profanity is just one of the personality changes associated with memory loss. If you have a loved one living with dementia, you will be able to communicate more effectively with them if you understand the illness and its impact.
The term dementia covers a number of medical conditions, including Alzheimer’s disease, caused by changes in the brain. The damaged brain cells cause memory loss and lead to a decline in thinking skills that will eventually cause the person to lose the ability to live independently.
Dementia is progressive, it gets worse over time and changes in the brain often lead to changes in a person’s personality.
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Personality changes in people with memory loss
While every individual is different, here are a few personality changes that are commonly seen in people with memory loss.
- Loss of short-term memory. They can’t retain recent events. For example, the person might not remember what they just had for breakfast.
- Paranoia. They might misplace something and accuse others of stealing it. A person with Alzheimer’s might become suspicious, jealous or accusatory.
- Repetitive speech or actions. This includes behaviors like asking the same question repeatedly or repeating the same action.
- Verbal outbursts. Surprisingly the person starts swearing, arguing and threatening.
- Sundowning or sleeplessness. Sundowning occurs when a person becomes restless, disoriented or agitated in the late afternoon and evening.
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Alzheimer’s & dementia: tips for better communication
If you have a loved one with dementia or Alzheimer’s, communicating with them takes patience and understanding. The intent is to make yourself easy to understand and to minimize anxiety for the person with dementia. The following are tips on how to talk to someone with dementia.
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- Speak directly to the person. Address the person directly, rather than talking to a caregiver or companion.
- Don’t ask a short-term memory question. They won’t remember. If you ask them a question they can’t answer, they will get frustrated, embarrassed or make something up. Instead of asking what they ate today, say something general like, “I hear the food here is delicious.” Rather than ask what they did today, mention that the weather is lovely outside.
- Ask simple questions. “Would you like some coffee?” is better than “May I get you something to drink?”
- Don’t argue. Don’t say, “remember, I told you that.” If they get confused and say something that isn’t true, state your perception of the
