Let’s be real, nowadays there are a lot of things that can stress you out; your job, your family, the pandemic, the election…the list goes on and on.
If you need to get rid of stress, there are a lot of different options out there. You can go to yoga, take a nice walk, or meditate. And they’re all great options, they really are. But I have a different one. If you really want to have some fun, you can take your stress out in the bedroom, seriously. Not only is the act of sex something you can get lost in and really forget your troubles, but there are also so many stress-busting benefits of orgasming. It helps you sleep better, the oxytocin release means you’ll feel more relaxed, and it helps soothe pain — just to name a few.
Sex Positions to Reduce the Most Stress
1) The Plow
The plow is just like it sounds–allowing you to plow out your frustrations with your mate can be oh-so-relaxing, rewarding, and stress-relieving.
How to do it: Another shift to the missionary position, this time raising your legs so far up that they rest on their shoulders. If you can hook your knees, then that’s normally the most comfortable variation, but don’t push beyond your flexibility.
Why it works: You don’t have to do anything except get into position and enjoy, but the really deep penetration is a total game-changer. It’s enough to make you forget whatever was bothering you.
2) Yab-yum
Never heard of it? We haven’t either until researching this topic. But chances are you’ve heard of tantric or tantrified sex?
Tantric sex is play that’s been slowed down tremendously and infused with a hearty dose of spirituality, breathwork, and intense eye contact (called eye-gazing).
This position is like the tantrified version of the lotus sex position.
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How to do it:
“The penetrating partner sits on the floor with their legs crossed, then the receiving partner sits on their lap facing them, legs wrapped around their partner’s back.”
Apparently, this aligns your genital chakras.
(If hip or knee flexibility makes sitting cross-legged uncomfortable, she says either partner can plant their feet on the floor.)
“Place your hands on each other’s hearts and sync your breath,” she says. After 21 in-sync breaths, “you’ll feel incredible, like your stress is melting away.”
Why it works: The intense nature of the orgasm that comes from tantric-style sex is what anyone needs to let off more than just steam (wink, wink). Here is a quick video on 5 sex positions to reduce stress:
3) Coital alignment
Another elevated cousin of missionary, coital alignment encourages you to keep your pelvis a bit below your penetrative partner and bend your knees so they’re up by your arms.
How to do it: If you’re a woman, scoot down a little bit lower than your lover and then hike up your knees. Your partner can either hold your knees or you can hold them back for maximum penetration.
Why it works: This one guarantees a good amount of action for the clitoris — which is something we can always get behind, or in front of, or on top of.
4) “Fork You” Spooning Position
This position is the epitome of how sex can help relieve stress. It shows that skin-on-skin contact and being held in an embrace full of warmth and love can be beneficial for you. Getting into this position releases a load of endorphins and cut the level of high cortisol.
How to do it: Both the partners need to lie on their sides, facing in the same direction. Slightly bring your knee up to provide your partner with some exposure to enter you. Your partner can slide in you from behind while firmly holding you.
Why it works: With such a closeness of touch, it satisfies our skin hunger and relieves stress.
5) Doggystyle
Last, but certainly not least, Doggystyle is an old “go-to” favorite. Why? Because it accomplishes a number of things: it lets the submissive position not only be creative and submissive but can also be dominant too.
How To Do It: You get onto your hands and knees with your legs slightly separated, while they kneel in between you and enter you from behind. Don’t be shy — you can use your free hand for some clitoris play.
Why it works: It’s a great stress-buster and this is the best position to let them go for it. And, pardon my French, but sometimes you just want to get f*cked.
Other Movements that Relieve Stress
Yoga and Tai Chi
Yoga and Tai Chi are both mind-body practices that can help reduce stress and promote relaxation. They are gentle exercises that combine physical movements, breathing techniques, and meditation to improve your mental and physical health. Yoga involves a series of poses, stretches, and breathing exercises that can help improve your flexibility, balance, and strength. Tai Chi is a low-impact exercise that involves slow, graceful movements and deep breathing techniques. Both practices have been shown to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, improve mood, and increase energy levels. Practicing yoga or Tai Chi for 20-30 minutes a day can help reduce stress and improve overall well-being.
Swimming
Swimming is a low-impact exercise that can be done at any age and fitness level. It’s a great option for people who want to improve their cardiovascular fitness while reducing stress. Swimming can be done in a pool, lake, or ocean, and there are many different strokes and styles to choose from. Swimming has been found to improve cardiovascular health, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve overall mood.
Dancing
Dancing is a fun and energetic activity that can help reduce stress and improve overall well-being. It can be done alone or in a group setting and there are many different types of dance styles to choose from, such as ballet, jazz, hip hop, or salsa. Dancing has been found to improve cardiovascular health, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve overall mood.
