Let’s be real: nowadays there are a lot of things that can stress you out: your job, your family, the pandemic, the election…the list goes on and on.
If you need to get rid of stress, there are a lot of different options out there. You can go to yoga, take a nice walk, or meditate. And they’re all great options, they really are. But I have a different one. If you really want to have some fun, you can take your stress out in the bedroom, seriously. Not only is the act of sex something you can get lost in and really forget your troubles, there are so many stress-busting benefits of orgasming. It helps you sleep better, the oxytocin release means you’ll feel more relaxed, and it helps soothe pain — just to name a few.
#1) The Plow
The plow is just like it sounds–allowing you to plow out your frustrations with your mate can be oh-so-relaxing, rewarding and stress-relieving.
How to do it: Another shift to the missionary position, this time raising your legs so far up that they rest on their shoulders. If you can hook your knees, then that’s normally the most comfortable variation, but don’t push beyond your flexibility.
Why it works: You don’t have to do anything except get into position and enjoy, but the really deep penetration is a total game-changer. It’s enough to make you forget whatever was bothering you.
Never heard of it? We haven’t either until researching this topic. But chances are you’ve heard of tantric or tantrified sex?
Tantric sex is play that’s been slowed down tremendously and imfused with a hearty dose of spirituality, breath work, and intense eye contact (called eye-gazing).
This position is like the tantrified version of the lotus sex position.
How to do it:
“The penetrating partner sits on the floor with their legs crossed, then the receiving partner sits on their lap facing them, legs wrapped around their partner’s back.”
Apparently, this aligns your genital chakras.
(If hip or knee flexibility makes sitting cross-legged uncomfortable, she says either partner can plant their feet on the floor.)
“Place your hands on each other’s hearts and sync your breath,” she says. After 21 in-sync breaths, “you’ll feel incredible, like your stress is melting away.”
Why it works: The intense nature of the orgasm that comes from tantric-style sex is what anyone needs to let off more than just steam (wink, wink).
#3) Coital alignment
Another elevated cousin of missionary, coital alignment encourages you to keep your pelvis a bit below your penetrative partner and bend your knees so they’re up by your arms.
How to do it: If you’re a woman, scoot down a little bit lower than your lover and then hike up your knees. Your partner can either