In 2015, the US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health reported that only 46% of cisgender heterosexual women said that they always or nearly always had an orgasm when having intercourse, with only 6% of women reporting always having an orgasm. Nearly one in six (16%) women had an orgasm approximately half of the time and 38% of women had orgasms fairly infrequently at most.
That’s terrible.
So, why are so many women having sex without reaching completion? It’s partially because, for a long time, people didn’t even know that women could orgasm. Scientist Alfred Kinsey led a huge sexual survey in the 1940s that led to the demystification of the female orgasm. It was very comprehensive, and he highlighted some interesting factors that still influence how we think about women, sex, and how they can achieve orgasm as well.
His Kinsey Report found that, that 40 percent of the women surveyed got their first orgasm from masturbation and five percent from "wet dreams," that 14 percent reported the phenomenon of multiple orgasms, and that women's orgasmic abilities rise and rise before tapering off at age 55-60. Since then, the needle has moved a bit on education around the female orgasm, but not enough judging by the above statistics.
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So, what can be done to get your girl off? Here are a few tips that can help the woman in your life, or you, achieve the big O.
Stimulate the clitoris
The clitoris is a hotbed of nerve endings that can easily heighten the sexual experience for a woman when stimulated properly. The clitoris is a very sensitive part of a woman’s anatomy. Having it touched, caressed, or stroked via direct or indirect stimulation (in other words, through fabric, or by touching the labia surrounding the clitoris) causes increased blood flow to that area and prompting a need for release.
A from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that several types of clitoral strokes (think up-and-down, back-and-forth, and both wide and small circles) can lead to orgasm. Experiment on your own and show your partner what you like. If clitoral orgasms don't come easy for you or you're having trouble reaching climax, consider looking at tools to help heighten the experience, like sex toys designed with clitoral orgasm in mind to make the moment more intense.
Hone in on the G-spot
According to studies, the elusive G-spot is on the front wall of your vagina, about halfway between your vaginal opening and your anus. It's not visible to the naked eye, but you can typically feel it; insert a finger into your vagina and press forward (making a come-hither motion). It usually feels rigid and spongy. Pressing into this area and gently stroking it can be deeply intense for the woman.
Anal Orgasm
Anal sex doesn’t rub every woman the right way but if you’re open, pun intended, it can be an incredible route to achieving orgasm.
Because the anus and rectum are in the same general area as the vagina and clitoris by way of the perineum, it can be highly sensitive when stimulated. But don’t be afraid to use a lubricant beforehand if there isn’t enough natural moisture there so pain and tears don’t happen.
Pay attention to the erogenous zones
The clitoris and G-spot aren't the hotspots for achieving orgasmic pleasure. Research has found that additional erogenous zones inside the vagina can lead to a deep vaginal orgasm when accessed correctly.
Firstly, the A-spot, located on the high front (or anterior) wall of the vagina just beneath the cervix, the O-spot (for orgasm), which can be found on the back wall of the vagina, almost behind the cervix.
Although they can’t be seen by the naked eye, the ligaments in these areas contain nerves that appear to be highly sensitive for many women. When touched by toys, fingers, or a penis it can be very, very pleasurable, especially when filled to the brim (wink, wink).
We hope these helped to turn you on and get you off!
