There are many things you should avoid saying to your child, for their and your sakes. These sentences may be harmful.
"Great Job."
According to Parents expert Jenn Berman, Psy.D., author of The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids, saying "Good girl" or "Way to go" every time your kid learns a task makes them rely on your encouragement rather than their own drive.
Be particular while giving praise. Instead, say, "Great game," or "Nice assist."
"Practice Makes Perfect."
Your child's talents will improve with practice. This saying might increase his pressure to win or succeed.
It communicates the idea that if you make errors, you don't practice hard enough. Encourage your youngster to work hard because he'll improve and feel proud.
"You're Okay."
When your kid scratches their knee and cries, you may want to reassure them. Saying they're okay may make them feel worse.
Your child is weeping because they're sick. Help them understand and manage their emotions, don't disregard them.
Hug your youngster and remark, "That was a terrifying fall." Ask whether they want a bandage, kiss, or both.
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"Hurry Up!"
Rushing your children increases stress. Your child lingers over breakfast, insists on tying their own shoes (even if they can't), and is late for school... again. Say, "Let's rush" instead. This shows that you're teammates.
"I'm On a Diet."
Dieting? Don't tell anyone else about it. Your child may develop a negative view of their body if they often see you using the scale and hear you refer to yourself as "fat."
"We Can't Afford That."
This default reaction communicates the message that you're not in control of your money, which might scare kids.
If they persist, you may talk about spending and budgeting in a way they can understand for the most part.
You could think of something similar: "We won't buy it since we're saving for more important things."
"Don't Talk to Strangers."
Young children struggle to understand this. If someone is polite, they may not consider them a stranger. Plus, children may misinterpret this regulation and oppose police or firefighters they don't recognize.
Instead of warning kids about strangers, ask what they'd do if a stranger offered them sweets and a ride home. Once you know how they'd react, you can advise them.
"No Dessert Unless You Finish Dinner."
Using this expression makes a child think that the dessert is more valuable, but it also takes away some of the enjoyment he gets from the meal.
The meal comes first, followed by dessert. Your child will benefit from the little difference in wording.
"Let Me Help."
As a parent, it's only natural to want to provide a hand while your kid is building a tower out of blocks or solving a problem. Don't.
Interfering too soon might be detrimental to your child's sense of autonomy. Direct him toward a solution by asking him questions.
