A prime example of this is I have always wanted to live in multiple states just so I can experience different parts of the country. In my line of work recruiters are constantly trying to hire and relocate me all over the country. I often will read up on the opportunity, but I would never pursue it without the consultation of my soon to be husband first. Reason being, moving across the country would disrupt both of our lives.
What I am thankful for is that with this having been a goal of mine I pursued it early in my career. Prior to getting engaged I have had the opportunity to live in four different states as I’ve climbed through my career. Because of this, I am not as anxious to jump at the next opportunity 500 miles away. Had my soon to be husband met me five years ago, my assessment of what was more important to me (career vs. relationship) may have been different. Since I have gotten a lot of those goals out of the way I can focus on my relationship as it is my number one priority now.
So you need to ask yourself, is marriage really the culprit in detouring you from your goals, or did you just choose the wrong time to get married, or the wrong person to get married to? Before tying the knot, you should plan a life blueprint. Where does your love life factor in, career goals, finance goals, location of where you want to build a life, kids, and anything else that may be a deal breaker for your relationship. Once that is set, pair yourself with someone that will not just complement those goals but someone who will be a cheerleader for you as you move towards them.
Beauty and hair maven Naomi Mackenzie is a freelance writer and business consultant. Her passion is to continuously keep up with the ever evolving techniques and topics as it relates to skin and hair, while helping others to embrace their own definition of beauty in a healthy way. Her blog, KissTheChaos (www.KissTheChaos.com) shares both an educated and personal perspective, sought to spark ongoing discussion. Follow her on Instagram at @oOolala_laa and on Facebook here.