3. “Come In” Cobra
This take on the classic cowgirl gives you much needed clit access as well as face-to-face intimacy. Get on top of your partner. Once he or she is inside of you, swing your legs back so that you’re lying flat against your partner.
Your bodies should be perfectly aligned. Rest on your forearms on his or her chest for extra lift. You’re essentially in a baby cobra position, only with your partner (or toy) inside of you.
Keep in mind this position is not always comfortable for everyone. Do what feels good for you.
This position is super intimate and sexy, which is probably why it is the most famous Tantric sex position of all. Known in Tantra at Yab Yum, the Lotus is amazing for female orgasm. It gets you up close and personal for deep, passionate kissing and right against your partner’s pubic bone for carefree clitoral stimulation.
Have your partner sit on the bed or couch and straddle him or her, face-to-face. Rock back and forth. You’ll get it (wink, wink).
Here are a few more tips that you may want to consider:
1. Be present. Be “in the moment” and try not to think about work, kids, bills, or the challenges of life. Focus on what feels pleasurable for you. One way to do this is to set the mood: maybe your thing is candles, incense or music. Whatever it is you need to get your mind right, do it.
2. Be patient. Trying to rush your climax may only delay it from happening. It’s going to happen if you let it. Give yourself as much time as you want to enjoy being sexy for yourself and/or for your partner.
3. Use a friction position. A friction position may help you have an orgasm during intercourse. Get on top, for example, so the top of your clitoris is rubbing directly on your partner’s pubic bone. Or lay on your back with a pillow underneath your butt.
4. Use “those” muscles. Kegels are the classic exercise for women who want to transform feeble orgasms into fabulous ones. Locate these muscles in your pelvic floor by stopping yourself from peeing midstream. Then…